Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Long weekend

Love seeing these three together. 
Play time with Dad
Nolan's first haircut where he didn't sit in my lap. It went downhill quickly. The lollipop only helped briefly. 
Poor guy
Afternoon playing in the cul de sac. Check out Nolan's hand on her leg. She's so sweet to him and he loves riding around. 
Eliza and I celebrated Emily's little girl on Sunday. Brunch at Local Three was delicious and great company too! Eliza was perfect at the restaurant! 
Group shot

The rest of the weekend we just played with the little ones and worked on projects around the house. I've been trying to prioritize rest over social plans. Jeremy woke up early a few mornings so I could get a little more sleep. I was still wiped out from Thanksgiving and hosting. It wasn't easy managing two very small children and having that many people. I barely got to sit down and eat but that's okay. I think everyone else enjoyed it. 

I'm really looking forward to decorating for Christmas in our new home this year. I also want to try and start some family traditions with our little ones. We will get our tree next weekend! I've started my Christmas shopping online. That's been the easiest for me this year. More soon!

Monday, November 28, 2016

12 weeks

Eliza has recently become a much happier baby! Less fussiness and more coos and smiles. We are loving seeing her little personality start to come out. She's also starting to sleep some longer stretches. 7 hours was her best, and it felt great for all of us.
She has recently found her hands and likes putting them in her mouth. 

It's fun to see her response to our smiles.
She is enjoying watching her brother play. This makes me excited for when they can play together.
She's much more content when you put her down lately.
Those cheeks! She's definitely starting to fill out more but is still petite for her age. I can't believe she will be 3 months next week. Time is really flying.


Saturday, November 26, 2016

Tips for life with two under two

It's been almost three months since I have been a mom of two babies 16 months apart. Looking back on the past three months, I have learned many new things. I definitely underestimated how challenging it would be. It's amazing and I feel so grateful for both my babies but I would be lying if I said it wasn't hard. The lack of sleep, the constant feedings, the diaper changes, and juggling two small children is not an easy task but I really wouldn't want it any other way. I'm learning that I have to change my expectations a bit and that it's okay to put everything else on hold while I take care of them. My children have needs, and all else can wait. 

Here are some things I've felt were helpful as I adjusted to life with two.

-accept help from anyone who offers

This is something that's hard for me. I like to try and do it all myself but with two under two, it's hard to do it all yourself. If someone is willing to help, graciously say yes.

-be okay with saying no

This is also something that is hard for me. I don't like to miss social plans. I like to be accommodating as well. Right now though, I can't be everywhere and sometimes that means saying no. If logistically the plans being made are going to make your day more stressful, it's okay to say no. 

-realize that relationships may change 

I've found I am making new friends that are in a similar life stage to me and growing apart from some that aren't. As much as I try to keep up with old friends, sometimes you drift apart. Finding people you can relate to really helps. 

-try to take breaks

With small children, the breaks are few and far between. If I can get both babies to nap at the same time, I have to decide whether to rest while they rest or try to accomplish something off my to do list. Lately, I am trying to put resting above all else. After all, I'm up at night and caring for two small children during the day. Taking care of yourself is important to be the best Mom you can be. 

-remind yourself how lucky you are

Sometimes it's easy to complain when you feel sleep deprived and more exhausted than you've ever felt before. When that happens to me, I remind myself how lucky I am that I get to be a mother. Just a couple years ago, I was unsure I would be able to have children. This experience is something I feel very fortunate for. It's the best thing I've ever done getting to raise my kids and be home with them everyday. It is very special getting to see this tiny person you created with your husband become their own individual. Helping shape and teach a new person is incredibly gratifying and rewarding. No matter how hard it gets, I always remind myself how lucky I am.

-try not to feel guilty 

This is one I struggle with a lot. When you add a second baby to the family, it's easy to feel badly for your first child. It's also easy to feel guilty when you can't give them your undivided attention. All you can do is try your best and love them. I like to try and think how I've gained that much more love instead of feeling like I lost that one on one with my first.



Friday, November 25, 2016

Thanksgiving

First Thanksgiving as a family of 4.
With Grammy 
With GiGi and Terry
With my Mom 
Eliza and me!
Loved her little Thanksgiving outfit from my friend Sara!
Grammy holding Eliza while I set everything up. It wasn't easy hosting with a one year old and a newborn.
Group shot 
One table 
The other table
The spread 

My plate 
Aunt Jessica was great with Nolan! 

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Nolan 19 months


Another month has gone by already and now we have a 19 month old! I'm really enjoying Nolan's current age and watching him learn to talk. Lately he has started making connections to things he sees in books and the house to the real world which I find really interesting. For example, he will take an pretend egg from his play kitchen to the refrigerator and point to it because he knows the eggs are in there. He will see a moon in a book and point out the window at the actual moon. He will see Curious George in a book and point at the TV because he knows George can be on the TV. I love seeing him make these connections. 

He's really into babies lately, and I'm wondering if that is because he has a little sister or if he would like them regardless. His favorite show is Daniel Tiger's neighborhood and Dan Tiger in the show has a baby sister. Nolan will point to his sister when he sees the baby tiger. Nolan is generally very sweet to Eliza and still loves to give her kisses. He generally hasn't seemed too impacted by her which has been great. I'm really fortunate he plays well independently and doesn't really get into things much. 

While I'm nursing, he's typically reading, playing with his toys, and occasionally watching a show. Once he turned 18 months he started focusing on a show and laughing at the TV. I still try to limit screen time but it is helpful when I'm nursing or making dinner. He's interested in phone and Ipad apps but still hits the home button frequently and loses his game which frustrates him. The parental controls of the home button do help but right now we don't give him the I pad often. 

At home he's generally a pretty easy toddler. Of course he has his meltdowns and squeals especially when he doesn't want to share a toy but is typically a sweet boy. My biggest challenge with him is sharing with other children on play dates but I think that's most children. It's a hard concept to grasp.

He's been sleeping wonderfully since Eliza was born which I am so appreciate of. He's on a great schedule of an 8-8:30pm bedtime, and he wakes up 12 hours later. He typically takes a 2 hour nap around 1-3. He went through a phase about a month ago where he stood and cried when we put him in the crib but lately he goes in, rolls around a little and puts himself to sleep. He no longer typically falls asleep in my arms which I do miss but I am glad he's able to fall asleep on his own. 

He has been weaned from nursing for three months now and did really well with the transition. He hasn't wanted to nurse when he see me nursing Eliza, and he loves drinking cows milk from a sippy cup or cup with a straw. I've been fortunate he's done so well with transitions from nursing as well as dropping the paci back when he was 8 months old. He's also learning to feed himself with a fork and spoon and is very proud of himself when he get the food on his fork and into his mouth successfully. I keep waiting for him to become a picky eater but so far he typically eats most things. Some days he won't want a certain food but generally he will eat just about anything. I hope that continues but I know toddlers can become picky. He is still a bug boy for his age and wears 24 month clothes. 

I can't wait to see what this next month brings. Happy 19 months Nolan!

11 weeks

Yesterday Eliza turned 11 weeks. I had heard time really flies with your second and I am finding that to be true. Sometimes the days feel long but at the same time it feels like she's growing up quickly. She's going to be three months at the beginning of December.

Eliza is very different than Nolan as a baby and has presented me with new challenges. She's much fussier and prefers movement even more than he did. She's generally happy if you're giving her your undivided attention but that isn't always easy to do with a toddler in the house. Lately, she won't take a bottle of pumped milk regardless the bottle type. She will just cry and cry until I nurse her. We've even tried with me out of the house. I am hoping this is just a phase but I know other mom's who have had similar issues. It can be difficult for a baby not to prefer one or the other. Looks like my outings without her will just be 2-3 hours so that I can be home to feed her. 

It's not a good feeling leaving knowing she likely won't eat until I come back. Fortunately most people understand her tagging along or me leaving early. I still try to be there for family and friends but my newborn has to come first and sometimes that means missing other things and that is okay. I think anyone with small children can understand.

In between the crying and fussy times, she's smiling and cooing often. These are the times I love so much. It makes all the hard work worth it. This Thanksgiving week, I'm thankful this little girl is ours. More soon!

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Weekly update

Let's start by saying I am so glad that it's Friday and that I got both little ones to nap at the same time! I can actually sit for a few minutes and do a blog post! I have a thousand other things I could be doing around the house but all of that can wait. I'm finding that it is important I try to take a break if I can get them both to sleep at the same time. Here are some pictures and updates from this week with my almost 19 month old and 10 week old! Life is busy and unpredictable with two under two but it's great! I've slowly learned not to sweat the small stuff and to just go with what happens. No matter how carefully I try to plan my day, it just doesn't always work out and that's okay.
We hosted our Monday morning play group this week. I am very thankful for this group of Moms! There are four Moms and seven little ones ranging from 2.5 years old to 10 weeks. There are two boys (19 months and 5 months) and five girls (2.5, 18 months, 17 months, 4 months, and 10 weeks.) I look forward to seeing everyone each week, and it is amazing to have a few other Mom friends with two close in age. We all understand each other and share stories of our successes and our failures. We discuss things that work for us as well as our challenges. I'm starting to have more of a network of stay at home Mom friends in the area by our house which is great too. Driving long distances lately just messes with naps so I find it easiest and most enjoyable to stay closer to home. We have such a great time together plus the little ones are getting to socialize.
Liza, Nolan, and baby Hunter
Nolan and his new friend at the library. Nolan is into puzzles lately and learning to say so many words. He is talking up a storm! 
It was the third Tuesday of the month which means it was the library's monthly "block" party. We all love this! Such a great free activity for Nolan and good time for me to meet other local Moms. I just made a new friend there last month!
This months blocks were pretty fun too!
Tuesday night was Taco Tuesday and I got to go out with three of my old coworkers. I had been looking forward to this for a while! My time out lately is few and far between, and I just loved catching up with them, having a drink, and eating a meal with two hands! Thanks to Jeremy for watching Nolan and Eliza. I felt badly Eliza was very fussy for him even though I fed her right before I left. She recently started to refuse a bottle regardless the brand or style. She will scream and scream and push the bottle out of her mouth. Lately, she won't even give it a chance but then nurses just fine when I get home. We will have to keep working at it but fortunately I don't have many plans to leave her anytime soon. 
I'm loving all the sweet smiles and coos she has been making lately. 
Isn't she getting big? We even had to more her car seat straps to the bigger size. It's crazy how fast babies grow, and she is even a petite one!
Afternoon stories with these two!
Very alert lately.
Doing some tummy time. 

Yesterday we went on a long walk with my neighbor. This morning we met a friend and her son at the park. The park isn't my favorite these days. It can be difficult to manage both myself. Ashley was so helpful with my two, and I really appreciated it. It can be hard to chase Nolan and help him climb up stairs and go down slides while wearing her. The stroller/car seat doesn't really work well especially at parks with wood chips. Baby wearing seems to be the best for the park so I can easily follow Nolan around but I find it hard to get him in and out of the swing. I think we will be saving our park trips for when Dad is around. 

I am really looking forward to a quiet weekend. I'm hoping to rest and relax as well as get somethings off my to do list. It's gotten very long so hopefully I can catch up a bit while Jeremy is home to help! I'm also looking forward to a short work week and four day Thanksgiving weekend! 


Eliza Week 7-10

I'm definitely having a harder time keeping up with my blog with two kids close in age and with the blogger app not working on my phone. I really need to email google and ask why it hasn't been updated and how I can continue to blog from a mobile app. It sometimes works but crashes all the time which is frustrating when you're writing a post and then you lose it. Anyway, back to the week 7-10 update. 

Week 7 went pretty well. I was feeling fully recovered myself which was helpful. I also was starting to feel more comfortable getting out of the house with both of them and adjusting to my new normal. Everyday though there are times that run perfectly and then other times that are a bit of a mess. I'm quickly realizing that have to be okay with a bit of chaos, a bit of a mess, and things not going as planned. After all, I'm working with a one year old and a two month old. Things with small children just don't always go as planned no matter how hard you try.

A few weeks back one of my friends said something that really stuck with me. I was talking about how I'm having a hard time keeping up with the cleaning and how it feels like there are always toddler handprints on my windows, glass doors, and stainless appliances. I can wipe them down and pretty much instantly it's back. It used to bother me until my friend said this. She said, you know what, one day in a few years you're really going to miss those little hand prints all over your house. At that moment, it all clicked for me. She was absolutely right. There is something so special about those tiny handprints all over my house, and I absolutely am going to miss that when my little ones are grown up. So now, every time I see those handprints that used to bother me a bit because it looked messy, I now see the beauty of my small children and that they are reminders of them and the fun they are having. So next time you're feeling like things are a bit of a mess at your house, remember that. :) 

I'm still feeling a bit sleep deprived and days where my body just feels sore from taking care of them. I was finding my lack of sleep causing me to complain a bit which I really try not to do. I prefer to be a positive upbeat person but lack of sleep can really take a toll on you. I'm thankful I am still young and usually have the energy for them. Taking care of a newborn and small toddler certainly isn't easy but I'm learning not to sweat the small stuff and to just go with it.

 I think I underestimated how much things change going from one child to two but even in the crazy moments, I feel completely thankful that these two babies are mine. I really wouldn't want it any other way. Many people aren't that fortunate. Some people can't have a baby in the first place let alone a second baby. Many people aren't able to stay home and want to. It's in the quiet moments where I realize how lucky I am. These really are some of the best years of my life, and I hope they slow down a bit!

Week 8 and 9 were a bit of a struggle. Then throw a time change in there with a newborn and toddler which threw everyone's schedules off. Nolan only took a few days to get back on track but Eliza was pretty off. She already wasn't sleeping well and that didn't help. I've been up with her typically three times a night lately. My wonder weeks app said these two weeks are a fussy period and that was true for her. She wanted lots of snuggles and wanted movement. We ended up investing in a small portable swing and a deluxe rock n play our neighbor has. I never needed a swing with Nolan but with her I thought it would help. Both these items have been great for us these last few days. I'll do a separate post about favorite baby #2 products soon! 



Week 10 has started off pretty well although she still isn't sleeping the greatest at night. She's been less fussy during the day and napping pretty well though. I'm just taking it one day at a time. Nolan took a while to sleep well but now he does. She will get there.

Monday, November 14, 2016

Friends Thanksgiving

All my former coworkers plus Eliza 
Brian, Kara, Bethany, Dan, Kristen, and Jeremy
James, Amy, Alyssa, Lindsey, Morgan, and Nolan 
Thanksgiving pot luck! We did this last year at the townhouse and decided to host again. I definitely want to make this a yearly tradition. I love catching up with my old coworkers and eating delicious food. I mean who doesn't love a second thanksgiving dinner? 
I was a little nervous about hosting while also taking care of a one year old and two month old but it went surprisingly well! See Nolan in the picture entertaining himself with a Gatorade bottle? He did awesome entertaining himself and being sweet to everyone. Not a single meltdown or cry the entire time everyone was over. Eliza slept through dinner which was perfect so I could eat. I went and got her after dinner and she needed to nurse. After that she was awake and happy for a bit before fallling asleep for the night. I was definitely distracted at times taking care of them but it went surprisingly well. One of those night you feel proud of your little ones for behaving so well. 
Jeremy did an amazing job roasting the turkey and cutting it all up as well as making the gravy. I'm thankful to have a husband who cooks so well! Everyone else brought sides, wine, and dessert.
There was turkey, stuffing, sweet potato casserole, mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, cranberry sauce, dinner rolls, and a fall salad. My only fail was forgetting to take the dinner rolls out of the microwave. Whoops! Could have been worse. We are going to freeze them and make my Grandmother's stuffing on Thanksgiving instead since you need dried out rolls anyway. All in all it was a wonderful night with great friends. I am glad we have kept in touch over the years even though I don't teach with them anymore. Most of us are in different stages of life but yet we all have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company. Thanks to all who joined us!! 

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