I found it ironic that I stumbled across this article a Facebook friend posted, and it happened to come up on my newsfeed the same day that this next chapter of my life was starting. What better time to read about things to start doing to make me a happier person. Check out the article if you have a minute! I honestly read it three times and even shared the ideas with my husband because I agreed with so many of the tips!
Tip #17 was really applicable to me right now. It says "start looking for the silver lining in tough situations". This is exactly what I'm currently trying to do. I'm looking for the positives that will come out of our pregnancy struggles. Things like being a stronger person and more appreciative parent when the time does come. I believe more and more that things happen for a reason, and I love this advice of looking for the silver lining during difficult times.
While talking to my best friend from college the other night, she made a really good point to me. She said, "Leslie, you know so many things in your life have come really easy and quickly for you in the past, and maybe this experience is teaching you something." I thought about it for a second, and she was right.
From the moment I was born, I had wonderful parents that set me up for success. Of course I worked hard along the way but that hardwork also led me to amazing results and immediate satisfaction. For example, I got a full scholarship to an out of state college which wasn't cheap by any means. I earned that through my dedication to volunteering and the 1,300 hours I volunteered as well as keeping my grades up in high school, however my hard work was rewarded. I was also a really successful tennis player in high school often making it into the news paper and having articles featured about myself. I was reminded of these the other day when I looking through my box of high school memories. Such great times! See below for some throwback Thursday pictures even though it's Saturday!
Cool article about my story!
Then I got into the college of my dreams. Next, I got a teaching job on my first try and literally two days after graduation. I had the interview and a job offer one week later just a week after turning 22. Then I met my amazing husband. Then We bought a home, and I got a new position closer to home. When I thought back on my life, I realized that in all these situations, my dedication and high standards for myself led to my success and immediate results.
For the first time in a while, I'm facing a situation where it's out of my control, and honestly I'm realizing it's a good thing that I'm being faced with a challenge and something I can't completely take into my own hands. This experience is teaching me to live in the moment more and appreciate where I am today. Today is a gift and is the only day we are certain that we have. I think I've always been guilty of thinking towards the future and planning out my hopes and dreams. I was always taught to set goals for myself and to never give up. I might have taken that too far though. First I wanted a job, then I wanted a husband, then I wanted a house, etc. I'll be happy once I get there right? Then once you get there you start wanting the next logical step. I think I've been focusing on those big life accomplishments too much while overlooking the suttle joys of everyday life.
This experience this past year has made me realize that life is not always in our control. We simply only can control the way we handle the situation. Life certainly is unpredictable and the timeline I had all mapped out in my head just might not be going as planned,and I'm noticing that that's okay. As challenging as this year has been and as crazy as this sounds, I'm honestly thankful for it as well. Of course I've gone through difficult times before like the separation of my parents, changing high schools junior year, and moving to a new place for a job but overall, when I look back on my life I have been incredibly lucky and blessed. Thanks to my friend Jess for reminding me of that! So take a moment to think about all the positives in your life and what you do have even if it's something small and simple. It's helping me tremendously! I absolutely loved this article, and I will for sure be reading it again in the near future for some great reminders. Hope you all like it!